How To Build Confidence In Children

THIS IS ONE OF MY GREAT FINDS TODAY BECAUSE IT HAS TO DO WITH INSPIRING
CONFIDENCE IN OUR CHILD/CHILDREN - A NECESSARY MUST THESE DAYS, DO YOU AGREE? THIS IS SOMETHING I WOULD HAVE LOVED IN MY UPBRINGING, AND IMPARTING AS A MOTHER. IF YOU DON'T FEEL YOU HAVE MUCH CONFIDENCE TO IMPART TO YOUR KIDS, THIS ARTICLE WILL SHOW YOU A LIST OF SIMPLE THINGS YOU CAN DO THAT WILL INSPIRE CONFIDENCE IN THEM. IT'S A GOOD START TO GIVE THEM IN LIFE. I JUST LOVE TO READ WHAT SOME PEOPLE HAVE TO OFFER!

How To Empower Our Children

Some things can really tear down someone’s self-confidence and self-esteem.
Some parents do that and Kids are so impressionable.

I believe it’s our task as parents to build confidence in our children.

Are you wondering how do I go about doing this?
I have some tips and ideas that have worked well for our children.

Being a positive parent in our own lives is important.

First, you really need to be engaged with your children every day.

This means paying attention to what they are doing and have an interest in what they are talking about.

When you take time out to be present when your child is showing you something, they do take notice.

As I was saying earlier, children like to mimic the adults they are around. This is why being positive in your own life is important.

Children hear and see everything. By being positive with your words you instill trust in your child.

The way you give praise is so important. Be their biggest encourager.

Having Confidence is so important to your child’s self-esteem, outlook on life and also their well-being.

Confident children are better at dealing with being frustrated, pressure from peers, and also dealing with negative emotions.

Not only is it important teaching your child to be confident, it’s also important that they know who they are.

Developing a good positive identity also ties in with confidence.

I feel by combining different techniques during different stages of development is the key to build confidence.

By giving you all these options you will be prepared to equip your child with the keys to self-confidence.

How Affirmations Develop And Build Confidence
Affirmations are a way to give your child positive reinforcement. By doing this, you are giving positive encouragement.

Your child will have more sense of who they are. I believe it helps to safeguard their mind when met with challenges.

I may have mentioned earlier that we are the biggest role models our children have, so this is why we need to be positive about ourselves.

You build trust and bond with your child when you are genuine with your words.
I have a few affirmations that you can use to help build on their confidence.

You have such a gentle heart
The hugs you give me makes me so happy
You were very brave when you did that
I’m so proud of who you are
You will always be my hero
I will always be here for you
You are beautiful within and on the outside
I love your creativity
I’m so proud to call you my child
You were born to do great things
I am so thankful for you every day
You’re such a quick learner
Live to be better every day
You have the best manners
All your problems have solutions
You encourage me to be a better person
You’re enough
You make a great leader
You are so amazing
I love hearing what’s on your mind
You make me smile
Thanks for working so hard
You are such a great kid

As you can see these all are great examples of what positive affirmations are.
Obviously, there are a lot more, the possibilities are endless.

Turning Positive Reinforcement Into Confidence
Being a positive parent we make positive kids. But sometimes that can be easier said than done.

I’ve got a few ideas that have helped my own children, even in the most stressed times in my life, I’ve been able to be an example to my own kids.

I don’t ever remember growing up and seeing so many parents as busy as we are today. It seems impossible to keep up with work.

But it’s important to remember to be present for our own kids.

When I say present it means leaving everything we have going on and laying it down. No phone calls, put the phones down, turn all devices off including TV often.

Here are some ways you can make time and connect with your kids. Believe me, they take notice if you really are paying attention.

Sit down and have dinner together and engage in conversation.
Play a game together.
If they play sports, be totally engaged without a device in your hand.
Exercise together. I actually do this with our youngest two. We go walking several times a week.
You want to show your children that they are worth spending time with. This makes them feel important and that in return builds confidence.

I like to look for opportunities when my children are trying to achieve a goal and I see them struggle.

When they finally catch a break and have caught on, I take the opportunity to praise them.

I congratulate them for their perseverance.

Making Children Accountable Will Also Build Confidence
Accountability can be a huge confidence booster. Give children some responsibilities, this will mean you trust them with doing a certain task.

This is where I have challenges. When I give my kids a task, and they do it, I have a tendency to go back and do it again.

It honestly didn’t ring my bell that I was undermining what they have done. My actions were telling them they didn’t do it right.

This is a huge issue with me and a confidence buster! I didn’t even realize I was hurting my child’s feelings.

Another thing is when we are doing chores together I have a tendency to taking over and doing it myself. This is another squasher to their confidence.

From hereon I really have to apologize for my actions. Now, as hard as it is I have to stand back and let them help the way they can do it.

I have to admit if it’s something like cleaning the kitchen, vacuuming, dusting or even folding the laundry, I at least wait till their asleep to fix or go back over things. I know I have a problem!

The lesson learned here is to let them be in charge of the responsibilities you give them. This gives them pride and a sense of accomplishment.

Confident With Expressing Feelings
Being over critical or ignoring your child’s feelings undermines their emotions. By doing this you are putting across that their emotions don’t matter.

It’s healthy for children to know that they can express themselves in a safe environment without feeling judged.

Parents need to be that safety zone and your home needs to be a safe place.

Probably the worst thing you can say to your child is ”what are you crying about. Instead, say “what’s making you so upset and can I help you with something?”

Believe me, I used to say the first one and didn’t realize that it made my kids feel worse and make them feel it was wrong for them to be upset. It's good to validate their feelings.

As a family, we talk through our feelings when needed and I like to let them know that they can express themselves because our home and me and their dad is a safe place.

In Conclusion
We want to be able to shape our child’s life with confidence. This will have an impact on them for their whole life. This will make them a confident adult.

If this feels like a daunting task I suggest just starting with one of the tips I suggested from above.

You just need to start, this will be the biggest gift you could ever give to your child or children.

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